Friday, November 3, 2017

Five on Friday: 5 Things No One Told Me About Parenthood

Joining in on the Five on Friday after almost a year of not blogging. So, Hey there! if you’re reading this... It's about to get real... ;)

Before I had kids, and definitely when I was expecting my first, I got a lot of unsolicited advice and stories and such. But there are some things that people didn’t tell me and I’ve been finding out for myself.  This list is not exhaustive as I’m just sticking to the 5 things for today :) Let’s see what you can add to this list...

{ONE} Someone is ALWAYS touching me.

(unprompted example lol)

I know this is different for every kid but I really feel like I’m constantly being touched. If I’m not holding a baby, I have one attached to my leg, pulling on my clothes or just sitting beside me but basically on top of me. Does anyone else experience this? I’m not complaining (well at least most of the time) but good gracious...

{TWO} I’m really bad at playing pretend.

I’m an introvert. My daily word limit is lower than others lol okay, okay. I’m exaggerating but seriously... I have a really hard time playing pretend with dinosaurs and stuffed animals.  I know I used to be so good at this when I was a kid. I spent hours playing with Barbies but now I feel like I don’t even have an imagination.

{THREE} My kids have opposite personalities than I have.

Obviously, I knew this was a possibility because my husband and I have different personalities but I wasn’t prepared for how this would stretch me. My boys are both extroverts (as far as I can tell) and like to talk and interact with strangers. This has pushed me beyond my comfort zone many times.  I’m still working on how I handle it since I’m totally fine just glancing and smiling at someone and considering my social duties complete. Now I have to actually interact because I have to fill in the gaps or interpret my 3 year old’s stories. And also... my kids attract a lot of attention for some reason. It’s crazy. I don’t think I’ve ever gone into a store without being stopped by at least one person.

{FOUR} The opportunity to be bored was actually a gift that I totally took for granted.

Haha. Before kids, my husband played a lot of sports (ok... he totally still does) and he would venture off to do things for his parents on Saturdays because he enjoyed being outside and he always had to be doing something.  Most of the time, I was totally okay with that because, again... introvert. All that to say, I would find myself being bored quite a bit. After kids, I’m like “Bored? What the heck is that and where can I get it?” 2 boys 3 and under home with me all day and trying to grow a business has meant no downtime whatsoever. I’m tired.... lol I’m sure if I were ever met with boredom again, it would quickly be met with a much needed nap. Can I get an Amen?

{FIVE} It’s possible to be so proud, feel such joy and experience complete insanity and chaos in the span of like 2 minutes.

And, umm, everyday. I suppose that’s just Parenthood in general, right? There’s just so many emotions everywhere at all times. Things can be going so awesome and something triggers and suddenly we’re in full out threenager meltdown and temper tantrum. Keep your arms and legs in the ride at all times, folks, cause you’re going to be on a roller coaster for the next 18+ years.

I’m sure everyone has your own list or ones you can add to this one. Care to share?

Also... as crazy as things can be and as different as things are once you have kids, no one can really explain how much you’ll love your kids. And that all the things I listed above... while they sound negative and sometimes are, Are really just a part of growing and becoming a better person because it’s no longer about you, and that’s okay.  Sometimes I look at one of my boys and I’m in complete adoration of the blessing God has given me.  He trusts me to be a good mom and while I may not feel like it sometimes, He made me to be the exact Mom that they need.

Well... until next time ;)

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