Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Kiss It Goodbye Challenge: Week 1 check-in

Well...1 week down, 11 to go! :)  Just finished my first week of my Kiss it Goodbye Challenge.  I didn't do as well as I would have liked in the weight loss area but I kicked butt in the exercise area.  I only lost .5lb and unfortunately that's part of the 2lb I seem to be bouncing up and down but oh well.  But it's better than gaining .5lb :) 

I exercised 4 days over the past week.  Yay me!  I started the c25k program.  I'm going to probably stay on week one for another week before I move on to week 2 because I don't think I'm quite ready.  I also did some strength training and lots of ab stuff.  I'm really thankful for the gym at my apartment.  It's a pretty decent size and there is typically not anyone else in there and if there is, it's only 1 or 2 people.  But it's a full gym basically.  I have walked/ran outside 2 of those 4 days and we have quite a few hills and having to jog up those suckers is NOT fun!  I've really had to make myself go for a walk/run because I haven't "felt like it" but after I finish, I'm so glad that I did it because I feel a lot better and I know that I did something to put myself closer to my goal.

I have a dry erase board on my fridge with a countdown to my cruise (which is also the end of the challenge).  That has actually helped me quite a bit when making food decisions and deciding whether I'm going to go sit on the couch or change clothes and workout.  I also have a side by side picture of myself from the day before surgery next to my last progress picture (front ways and sideways) and in big letters "You have to MOVE it to LOSE it! Only 40 lbs to go!"  Because I have 40 lbs to reach my ultimate goal.  I highly recommend doing that.

I had my 6 month follow up at my surgeon's office.  I have to meet with the PA.  I haven't seen the surgeon since right before they told me to count backward from 10 in the operating room  lol  I'm a little bothered by that but not really. I mean...he did his time to do mine.  Anyway.  She said that I've probably hit a stall because I'm not getting enough calories.  I usually stay around 1,000.  She wants me to stay around 1200 and that includes exercise calories.  She said if I eat 1,000 calories and then burn 300, I'm only giving my body 700 calories so it's holding on to every bit of it.  So I'm trying to pay better attention to that and I'm logging what I'm eating in My Fitness Pal.  I'm just not really sure what to eat that is still low in carbs (and not difficult or timely to fix).

I found a recipe for Almond Apple Spice Muffins that are low in carbs and high in protein.  I'm going to give it a whirl making them tonight.  I'll let you know how it goes :)  If they are good, I'll post the recipe and a picture.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Kiss It Goodbye Challenge!

I have exactly three months until I am on a cruise to the Bahamas with some good friends.  My goal is to lose 25 pounds before that point.  That's totally doable if I set my mind to it and work hard.  If When I reach my goal, I will be the smallest I've been since 6th grade.  That is completely insane for me to even fathom considering that I am in an adult body (and a few inches taller) now versus an adolescent ever changing body.  Does that even make sense?  Anyway.  That's my goal (not my final goal but my next goal).  And I'm going to reach it.  When I reach it, I will have lost 103 pounds total.  So I will gladly KISS IT GOODBYE!

Who wants to join me?  I think an accountability group would be awesome.  We could do weekly check ins either through this blog or through a private Facebook group (which I think would be cool and easy for everyone to use since most people have Facebook and all).  You may have more than 25lbs to lose or you may not even have 25lbs...but we could be an encouragement to each other to keep going to reach whatever goal you choose to set for yourself.

Since my blog posts usually happen over a span of a couple hours lol  I went ahead and started the Facebook group.  If you want to join just search Kiss it Goodbye- 3 Month Challenge and ask to join.  We'll keep it clean and no drama or judgments.

I will do Weekly Check-Ins so if you just want to follow along through the blog...that's cool too.  I think I'll make my Weekly Check-in on Wednesdays since I'm starting the challenge officially today :)

Goal for this next week.  Walk (at least) every day.  Add in strength training at least twice a week.  I've printed out side by side progress pictures to hang on my fridge and my bathroom mirror to remind myself where I once was and how far I've come but I'm not stopping yet.  I'm so close to my victory...I can taste it.

Ready to make it happen....

Monday, September 16, 2013

Finding the Art within

My husband and I owned a photography business for about 4 years.  Photography has been a passion of mine since high school.  We decided to close the business last year because the area was just over saturated with "photographers" and we didn't have the time we needed to make the business successful.  And honestly, a lot of people just don't value professional photography.  When we closed the business, we also put down the camera.  I think it's partly because we felt a little defeated even though making the decision to close was bittersweet.  We don't have kids of our own so we haven't really felt "inspired" to keep shooting.  I know we shouldn't think that way.... 

Every once in a while, I'll offer to do pictures of my friends' kids or take pictures of my nephew just so I don't forget what I'm doing and sometimes I miss it.  It reminds me why I loved photography in the first place.  Capturing the innocence of a child on camera is priceless to me.  I know my house will probably be covered in pictures when we have our own children.  Until then, I can just love my friends' kids lol  Sometimes, I want to pick photography back up but then I remember that I don't have the time that I really need to do it and I don't really like competition or dealing with money and the business side of it.

I did a three year old session for the daughter of a long time friend last weekend.  I've photographed her since she was a newborn (unless you include when she was in her mommy's belly).  It's been fun to watch her grow and seeing the changes in her over the years.  She's so full of personality.  And it was fun to go shopping with her mom to pick out her outfits ;)  That always helps haha

I hope I have a little girl one day.  These kind of pictures make me long for children.  The look of pure joy and innocence on her face and she's just so precious.  That black and white picture in the middle....those are the types of pictures that I just stare at.  It's one of those pictures that makes you wonder "what is she thinking about?"  Of course I love black and white pictures anyway...they are just so classy and I think they take on a different type of artistry.

I actually think it's pretty healthy to take a break from something you are passionate about for a while.  I was getting burnt out.  But now that I'm not doing it as a business....I remember why I enjoy it and I can do it on my own time.  I'm definitely not giving up and if anything...I'll have some really awesome pictures of my own kids when the time comes :)

Sunday, September 15, 2013

The Sunday Social: Week 5

This week's Sunday Social is about blogging :)  If you'd like to participate, click the cute lil' pic below to go to Ashley's blog.  Copy the url for the pic along with the questions and then post it all into your blog post and answer the questions.  When you are finished, go back to Ashley's blog and link your page.  Easy Peasy ;)

Sunday Social

1. What is the name of your blog?
Goal Minded Girl

2. What do you love most about blogging?
I like being able to just write freely.  I like the design aspect.  I also like meeting new people that I would have never had the privilege of meeting if it hadn't been for starting my blog.

3. Why did you start blogging?
I wanted to try something new.  I also wanted a way to keep up with my weight loss story.  Then my perspective changed and I started thinking about ways that I could encourage others.  Now whether or not I have succeeded in that...I don't know :)

4. What is something you’d want to tell someone just starting out in the blog world?
Just be yourself.  Don't compare yourself to others when it comes to writing styles and things like that.  Just go for it.  And make sure you are blogging for you first or you'll get burnt out and won't have much of a reason to continue.

5. Biggest blogging learning experience you’ve had?
Umm.  Don't expect comments unless you actually participate on others blogs and in social groups, etc.  I guess that's the biggest thing I've learned.  I've learned that I may not be the best writer, eloquent or funny but that writing helps me to process things in my mind and I enjoy that.

6. What are three blogs you love?
Only 3??  lol ok...well I guess the below are my top 3.  I seem to go through different spurts of what blogs I read.  I already posted 3 of my favorite VSG blogs on my last blog post.  Here are a few that I find inspiration in other ways.

Thursday, September 12, 2013

Reality Check

I was glancing through a couple blogs that I keep up with and three of them posted on basically the same topic.  And they had some really great points that I wanted to share.  I needed to hear them but I think anyone who has had weight loss surgery or is thinking about it needs to hear it as well. 

They were talking about unrealistic expectations.  Sheila from This One Body posted a very interesting article on the realities of weight loss surgery success.  It was entitled "Why Bariatric Surgery Can Fail".  It talks about how realistically, people who have weight loss surgery can expect to lose on average 20-30% of their initial weight.  I think a lot of people get in their heads that just because they have surgery, they are going to get down to a normal/healthy bmi.  To be considered a "normal/healthy" bmi, at the top range of that scale, I would have to get down to 165.  I may have weighed that in elementary school (no, really...).  I would look sick if I were down that low and I don't consider that healthy (for me personally...with the way I'm built).  But some people are told that that's where they need to be so they set these unrealistic expectations for themselves.  When they don't reach those goals, they consider themselves a failure despite the fact that they are so much healthier by losing the weight that they have.  Then the result of the "failure" can ultimately result in falling back into their old habits.

When I initially met with my surgeon, he didn't tell me that I needed to get down to 165 or lower thankfully.  He asked me what I wanted to get to in order to consider the surgery a success.  I thought that was great and I was thankful for that.  However, after surgery, I've only met with the PA that works with the surgeon and I can't really say I'm a big fan.  I feel like she just goes through the motions and the check list.  Basically when I go to my follow ups, I've never really asked her a question because I've never felt like she actually cared or knew what she was talking about.  And each time, she'll say, "ok by your next appointment, I'd like to see you at ___% excess weight loss".  I have to ask her how much that would be so I know what my goal needs to be for the next appointment.  But I've kind of gotten to the point where I'm more concerned with MY goals....not hers because she's reading hers off of a paper and that drives me nuts.

At this point, I'm at 26% weight loss from my starting weight.  To get to my goal, it would be 38% weight loss....which even though it's above average, I really believe that it's doable.  However, if for some reason my body stops losing, I am not going to just throw in the towel like I did before (granted, the last time I weighed what I do now, I was 17).  It will just mean that I need to reset my goals to focus on other things like toning and fitness levels (which should be part of my focus now anyway).  I remember what it feels like to weigh 78 lbs more than I do SUCKS in every way...physically, emotionally, psychologically!  I never ever ever want to be back at that point no matter what.  And I would hope and pray that if I were starting to gain and go back to my old habits that someone would step in and confront me about matter how badly it would probably hurt my feelings.

If you are considering having surgery or you have already had it and are looking for more encouragement from those who have been there, done that, definitely check out these blogs...they are my favorite ;)  I really enjoy reading them because they are all real.  They don't sugarcoat the journey of someone who has been through the surgery and I appreciate that.
Sheila at This One Body
Tamzin at Move Aside Fatty
Linda at Linda Sherwood

Monday, September 9, 2013

Marriage Monday: The 5 Love Languages

You may or may not know this but I've always had a thing for learning about personalities and knowing why people act the way they do.  That's why I majored in psychology in college.....not that I'm doing anything with it now  lol  Anyway!  I've read some really great books on different personality types and when I read Dr. Gary Chapman's book "The 5 Love Languages", it was very eye opening.  I completely recommend this book to anyone...married, engaged, single, whatever.  You can even go to the website and take the quiz to see which love language you are.  If you are married or engaged...have your spouse/fiancĂ© take the quiz too. 

Everyone feels love in different ways.  We're all very different.  And your love language can change over time.  Mine did!  The book also talks about how people typically show love through their own love language as well.  It's not always the case necessarily but I see it more now that mine has changed.  We all have "love tanks" and if people close to us show us love through our love language, our tanks are filled.  It's not a scientific's common sense really but the point is to figure out how to show love to others in the way that they need it.

The 5 Love Languages are as follows (in order of my own scores...there are 30 questions)...

1) Acts of Service- Do you feel loved when someone does something for you?  This is my big one.  It didn't use to be (before I got married or as a newlywed) but now, it does my heart good for Darren to clean up or just take something off my plate without me having to ask and sound like a nag.  This is actually his love language as well (funny how that works). My score= 12

2) Words of Affirmation- Does it make you feel good to get a compliment? Or if someone tells you how great of a job you are doing...or thanks you for something, etc?  If this is something that you NEED, your love language may be words of affirmation.  This one is my second highest one.  Although, I do have a hard time taking a compliment but that's a self-esteem thing. My score= 6

3) Physical Touch- I know a lot of huggers or people who will reach out and touch your arm or shoulder while they are talking to you (not in a harassment sort of way mind you).  I don't really do this with other people.  I like to hold hands with Darren.  I like hugs.  Is that what makes me feel the most love?  Not really.  But a lot of people need that. My score= 5

4) Receiving Gifts- Who doesn't like to receive gifts??  But some people do enjoy it more than others and that is how they feel loved.  For me...although I do love to receive gifts, it's difficult for me to accept them and not feel like I have to do something in return or I feel guilty for it.  Does that make sense? My score= 4

5) Quality Time- Undivided attention.  This can be a tough one if it isn't your love language but it is your spouse's.  Turn off the tv and take your eyes off of your phone for a little while and just spend some time together.  This was my lowest scoring love language.  Does that make me shallow? lol My score= 3

So go take the quiz!  It's nice to know what your friends' love languages are also.  It's not a romantic love type of thing.  So feel free to comment and tell me what your love language is and if you agree with it or not.  Make sure to answer the questions honestly though!

Dr. Gary Chapman also wrote corresponding books like The 5 Love Languages of Children, The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers, The 5 Languages of Apology (I own this...need to read it), The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace (need this!), God Speaks Your Love Language, etc.  He also wrote 101 Conversation Starters for Couples and for Families...I need to get those!

That's all for Marriage Monday :)  I might blog again this evening with an update on stuff.  We'll see!


Sunday, September 8, 2013

The Sunday Social: Week 4

This week's Sunday Social is all about Fall.  If you want to participate, click the picture below to go to Ashley Lately's blog.  Copy the link for her picture along with the questions, answer the questions on your own blog and link it back to Ashley's blog.  Easy Peasy :)

Sunday Social

1. What is your favorite fall activity?
I like different fall activities like camp fires and roasting marshmallows.  I like's fun.
2. Do you follow a football team? If so, which one and why?
I hate football. period.  HATE football  lol  It ranks right up there with golf.
3. What is something fun about fall in your area?
Umm. We don't really get out and do stuff  lol we are bums really.  We do have quite a few corn mazes (some "haunted") and pumpkin patches, etc.  But I think we haven't really done any of that stuff because we feel like most of it is made for kids and since we don't have any, we feel kinda weird.
4. What are your favorite fall staple outfits?
With the weight I've lost, I'm sure I'll have some new favorites.  I'd like to get a pair of boots.  I like scarves. That's about it.  I'm not sure what else is considered fall attire....not much of a fashionista.
5. What things are you looking forward to most about this coming fall season?
We are are going to carve a pumpkin this year.  I've never done that before.  I know that probably sounds crazy to some people.  My mom let us go trick or treating or we went to the church's fall festival but when it came to pumpkins...they got painted, not carved.  idk.  We're also going camping with some friends in a few weeks.  I haven't been camping since I was about 7ish.  I would also like to go to Raleigh for the state fair in October...never been.

6. What is your favorite fall holiday? Tradition?
I already said I liked Halloween.  I don't guess we really have traditions.  Maybe we will create some when kids come along.  Any good ideas for me? :)

Sunday, September 1, 2013

The Sunday Social: Week 3

Continuing in my routine with the Sunday Social.  This week is about things you did during the summer.  If you want to participate, click on the graphic to go to Ashley Lately's blog and copy the graphic and the questions....answer the questions then link your blog back to her blog.

Sunday Social
1. What was your favorite trip/vacation/activity this summer?
We didn't really do much this summer due to finances and the fact that we are going on a cruise in December.  But I did get to go to Panama City Beach, FL with a bunch of high school students so that was fun.  We also went to the zoo and to the beach for a short weekend.

2. What was your favorite outfit look/clothing item of the summer?
ummm.  I got several new outfits for the summer mainly because I'm still losing weight and couldn't wear anything from last summer.  I got a couple cute dresses...which is very odd for me to say.

3. What is one thing you wish you'd gotten to do this summer?
oh. I'm not sure if I really need to go there  lol  Is this question implying if money were no object?  Really.  I don't know.  With everything that happened with our house and now not having renters and having it on the market, I can't really go back and say anything in particular.

4. What was your favorite song of the summer?
I don't really have a favorite song at the moment.  I listen to so many different styles of music all the time....nothing really stands out to me.

5. What was your favorite movie/tv show of the summer?
I can't remember what came out when.  Fast 6 was the last thing I saw in the theater.  And that was pretty good :)

Sorry.  My answers were completely boring on this one because my summer has been kind of blah.  But that probably has a lot to do with my attitude towards our circumstances.  I'm trying to get better with that.